Couples will often find themselves experiencing similar types of disagreements or noticing that there is a common “theme” coming up when they are experiencing frustrations between them. This usually begins once the honeymoon period has faded and this can be from 30 days into a relationship or as long as a few years depending on the dynamic of the couple in the external circumstances.
This is when couples well either break up, take space, begin to argue, or seek couples counseling.
A powerful tool used in couples counseling at Mindsight Therapy as that of the dialogue.
And just a few sessions you can learn how to dialogue with your significant other in a way that facilitates passion, connection, and safety. It is these three elements that are essential in working out disagreements and really understanding each other on an intimate level.
The problem for most couples is that when they are in a heightened state or triggered by their partner, it becomes more difficult to listen to the other person. By learning how to integrate the dialogue in your relationship, you can begin to heal the underlying dynamics that are coming between you and in fact get them out of the room entirely. A simple tool can transform your relationship as you begin to really listen to what is underneath with your partner sharing. And this way you can connect and that feeling experienced in the honeymoon period returns.
If you have not tried couples counseling and are interested in doing a few sessions using the dialogue, reach out with any questions you have or simply booking a session specifying in the comments that this is what you are looking for specifically. The dialogue is a transformational tool that can be used to transform any relationship, not only those between intimate couples. Families, friends, and work relationships can be empowered when the old outdated ways of relating are updated for new ways which create a present relational dynamic.
